Holding yourself accountable to your goals

Many of us were raised with our parents telling us that we needed to do good in school in order to get a good job or career to be able to live a meaningful life and provide for our families. Very seldom are we told what that means exactly. I grew up in a house where my parents worked ALL the time. My father worked the majority of his life for the metropolitan area transit system, first as a bus driver, then a train operator in DC where he retired. My mother worked for the federal government all of her career and retired after almost 40 years of service. My father was rarely home, he worked overtime, double time, triple time to provide for his family. My mother worked 5 days a week and came home to cook dinner every single night. We were raised as latchkey kids and had to fend for ourselves the majority of the day if we weren't in school. I don't blame my parents because it was what they needed to do in order to provide. Their happiness was secondary to working and providing. The point of me telling that story is because so many of us grew up with this same idea of how life is supposed to be, find a reasonable paying job or career, work 8 hours a day or more, come home tend to your children, go to sleep, and wake up to start the cycle all over again. I learned that this was the way to live. My parents never made the time to focus on personal goals because they were too caught up in the cycle of life. I grew up with the same work ethic. I had the idea that the "American Dream" was to do well in school, find a high paying job, get married, buy a house, start a family and live happily ever after. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that idea but in that pursuit I lost myself. I wasn't doing what I wanted to do, I was doing what society expected me to do. I had no time for my dreams, my personal goals, I have a family to provide for and I need to be accountable to them right? It had gotten to a point where I no longer knew what I wanted to do, I was lost and miserable. I needed to reconnect with myself and pull myself out of a dark hole. I found myself being accountable to my family, my employer, my bills etc. and lost all accountability for myself and that's when I decided to seek help. Counseling helped me to gain clarity and hold myself accountable to the choices I made in life. It's easy to blame others for the situations that we find ourselves in, but when we have the courage to do the work within is when you have truly opened up a whole new world of endless possibilities. We all have goals and dreams in life, with everything that life brings those goals may seem to be so far out of our reach. We were all put on this earth for a purpose and we all have God-given talents. Those talents were not meant to be stifled, they are meant to be shared. Who says that we can't make a living purposefully? Wouldn't it be fulfilling living in your purpose, doing what you love? I have learned that the ultimate goal in life is to be happy. Why not be happy doing what you love? It starts with a goal and a purpose. No it's not going to happen tomorrow, maybe not even a month from now, but if you take it one day at a time with small action plans your goals can become a reality with time. Don't let another day go by, be accountable to you for a change. You deserve it and you are worth it. That's why I decided to be a life coach, this has always been my dream. I have always wanted to help people be happy and make the most out of life. Now I have the clarity to do so. It is my purpose to share my personal life stories to help others that may be experiencing the same. Through all my trials and tribulations, I never gave up on Nicole and holding myself accountable is my mantra. No one is perfect and that makes us human. What really matters is the way that we handle those imperfections. Are you lost in the jungle of life? Do you need help finding what your purpose is? Do you need an action plan to reach your goals? I would love to help.

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